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Giving Yourself Permission To Be Who You Are Meant To Be

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Pre-recommended read

Tim on being a Natural http://naturaltim.com/?p=25

Nathan on being who you are meant to be http://rsdwiki.com/index.php?title=The_answer_to_every_question_of_your_life

I'll keep this pretty straightforward, with little concern for explanations or details. In a way it's pretty basic, in a way it's so advanced that I'll struggle with it my whole life.

Basically it all comes down to this: Giving Yourself Permission To Be Who You Are Meant To Be

When a teacher asks a question most students reaction is to look away for the reason they don't have an answer to the question. They take themselves out of the game. The same happens when you look at a girl, she looks back, you crumble and look down. Why do you crumble? Because you feel pressure. Is it social pressure? In a way yes, in a way no. It is self-inflicted pressure and in the same way that Rearden and Dagny are to blame for letting society erode their moral code in Atals Shrugged you are to blame for not having your own standard of what it takes to stand as a man upon the self-inflicted pressure and instead of looking down, looking at her with laser-eyes, keeping the pressure external. Why is there pressure in the first place? Because you think in order to be of a certain 'status' you need certain 'things', as you're not in possession of them there's pressure arising from your mind telling you to act in a way that aligns with the concept of what it thinks you deserve. There are several things that make your mind go 'click' Ah, I've got them all, now I can use high-status (sub)communication because I can't be 'found out' anymore. I'm able to back it all up. Depending on conditioning/upbringing etc most people use these factors.

   - Looks
   - Money
   - Heritage
   - Friends
   - Amount of cool stories
   - Sexual skill
   - Coolness
   - etc pp

To be honest, we can now write several pages about why these factors are unimportant, it's up to you to believe it or not that they really matter very little.

So what is it then that should give you that 'click'? You yourself. Write down what's important to you, what matters to you, what you think is cool, what values you have, how you are commited to behave each day. Once you get this down you will be immune to criticism. Why? Because it comes from a place different than yours and the only court able to judge you happens to reside in your place You will no longer flinch when a girl looks at you, you will no longer be reactive to girls. Why? Because you are now the one who set the standard. By doing this you will automatically convey all the right traits.

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